Hey there, Wonder Seeker,
Every December, it feels like the world starts preparing for a reset. People reflect, they plan, they make resolutions.
But if I’m honest, I feel like my reset started months ago. And it started with something I didn’t want to choose at first.
For years, I was dancing joyfully all over the Access Consciousness map. Symphony. Bars. Relationships Done Different. Facilitating all the things, following all the sparks, saying yes to every creative whisper. My team and I were building, growing, expanding in so many different directions. It was beautiful. And it was a lot.
So when the Five Elements of Intimacy started tugging at me quietly, then insistently, I did what many of us do when something big is trying to land.
I pushed it away.
I told myself it wasn’t practical. Too niche. Bad business move. I might get bored.
People might not follow me. I might lose momentum.
But the Five Elements didn’t care about any of that. They kept showing up anyway. Not in loud declarations, but in those small undeniable moments of clarity. In my classes, in client sessions, in my personal life, they were becoming my daily guide. They were changing everything. They were helping me stop abandoning myself. They were giving me awareness I didn’t even know I needed.
It got to the point where denying them was no longer an option. They were choosing me, and it was time for me to choose them back.
And here is where I got the biggest surprise.
I brought the idea of retargeting the entire business to my team, fully expecting at least one of them to talk me out of it. I thought they would say this was too big, too risky, too limiting.
Instead, they lit up. It was like they had been waiting for me to say it out loud.
What I didn’t realize was that the Five Elements had already woven themselves into the team. The way we communicated. The way we created. The way we handled challenges. The intimacy within the business itself had grown, and I hadn’t even fully seen it.
And suddenly it became clear. This wasn’t a contraction.
This was a refinement. A distillation. A coming home.
Of course, that doesn’t mean the fear disappeared. There were days in the rebrand process, rebuilding the website, redirecting the message, choosing a movement as big as Include You, where doubt crept in like an old familiar friend.
What if I was making a huge mistake? What if this whole thing was delusional?
What if I was taking tools out of my toolbox instead of expanding them?
But each time doubt got loud, I returned to the moment of knowing. The still point where the w
hole shift began.That one breath of absolute clarity where the only possible choice was yes.
Trust became the volume knob I kept turning up.
And strangely enough, ever
y time I leaned deeper into trust, the path opened wider.
More ease. More congruence. More support. More me.
And speaking of support, I want to shine a light on someone who helped solidify my knowing in ways she probably doesn’t even realize.
A Wonder Highlight: Rusty Smalley
Rusty took the Five Elements class, and after I shared that I spent 90 days weaving these elements into my own life, she was the one person who actually took that invitation and ran with it.
She began her own 90-day journey and started posting daily in the class Telegram chat, letting the elements shape her world in real time. Not just applying them, but living them. Letting them rearrange the way she chose, perceived, interacted, and allowed herself to receive her life. Her share about her journey stopped me in my tracks. Because it showed me what is possible when someone actually lives these elements rather than simply understanding them.
Rusty, thank you. Your willingness became a mirror for my knowing. And I am forever grateful!
Wonder Tools for Your Own Path of Choosing
When doubt creeps in, ask…
• “What did I know when I first chose this?”
Let that knowing resurface.
• “Is this doubt even mine, or am I picking up the noise of other people’s fears?”
• “If trust was the loudest voice in the room right now, what would I choose next?”
You don’t have to bulldoze forward. You don’t have to force clarity. Just return to the knowing that began the path.
And let it guide you again and again.
Thank you for being here in this season of refinement and creation with me. We are building something beautiful with Include You, and you being part of this journey means more than you know.
Off to add more wonder to my own chaos…
PS. If what I shared today resonated with you, you may be delighted to find out that my brother Dain and I are holding a Free webinar on Monday, December 8th.
We’ll be exploring, with our amazing host, Katarina Wallentin, the 5 Keys to Truly Liking You. Consider it one more space inviting you to your knowing. You can sign up here.
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